are you dating a committment phoebe

Are you dating a commitment phoebe? Ladies look out!!!!!

When in a relationship we tend to lose our minds, we often focus on our partner that we forget that we exist as individuals. As women we want to make the relationship work so badly that we forget to spare our feelings. Most women put the guy ahead of themselves and we want to make him Mr. perfect, from the moment the relationship starts we already want to make it the best relationship ever, we are competing with our past relationships, if the past one didn’t work we sure want to make the next one work so bad that we do anything to keep the guy. We wash his clothes, cook for him, spent time with him even though we are writing the next day and even neglect our friends. This is bad because we lose our independence and after the break up we are nothing without the guy, or so think. In all of this, because we are so occupied with making it work we become blind to see all the guys’ faults. We painted picture of him as the perfect man for you so whatever mistake he does is cool with you because you love him. Most commitment phoebe guys hint from the first day they meet you that they are not into serious relationship and they only say it once so if you are a naïve woman and think you can change him you are wrong ladies. You cannot change your man if he doesn’t make that decision on his own there is nothing you can do about it. I met this one guy and he was 26, and he was single. I was so shocked because he looked like he can get any woman he wants so I asked him about it and he said he is not into relationships because he is focusing on building his empire and not woman. I was shocked because we just met and he said he really likes me, If was hard headed I would have agreed to be his girlfriend and allowed myself to be used but I was like no thanks. I could have said yes because he had the car the town house and the money, but I told myself that I know what I want and that’s a serious relationship and I won’t settle for less. In my experience of dating I have been observing every guy I dated or the once that approached me, this guy for instance was telling me indirectly that he just want to hit and run. So I observed his conversation very well and I read in between the lines because I have learned that guys say one thing but they actually mean the other. When in a relationship one should not get caught up with loving ones partner that one become blind to every thing else. A woman you must know what you want and stick to it, watch your man and how he talks because guys tell you what they want from you in their own twisted way. Trust me I learned in the most hurtful way and I told myself never to get hurt again by being blind. Sometimes women are to blame for their failing relationship because they focus on loving the guy that they forget his needs. We often think we know what our guy needs and we give him our all, whereas the poor guy just wants to have fun. One of my girl friend dated this one guy who seemed so perfect, he was the man of her dreams and she was determined to do whatever it takes to keep him. He tried to hint that because he sees violence and pain on a daily basis at work he has lost his heart, my friend however ignored this. Even after his second hint when he said he is a runaway love she still didn’t take it seriously